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Saturday, November 30, 2013
Monday, October 21, 2013
Looking at the stats about teens and porn use can be frightening, especially when you consider the kind of material they are watching. About 90% of boys and 70% of girls, ages 13 to 14, have reported accessing porn at least once the previous year, and 35% of boys reported viewing porn online “too many times to count.”
What can parents do to block teens from Internet porn?
1. Buy an Internet filter that gives them freedom with accountability.
Most teens live their lives online. It has become a part of the normal way they stay connected to their peers. Instead of removing the Internet altogether, buy an Internet filter that gives them the freedom to explore the Internet while blocking inappropriate content.
More importantly, filtering should always be paired with some measure of accountability. Parents should monitor where their children go online at all times. Spying is not the answer, but accountability is. Teens should know they are being monitored. Knowing you will receive a regular report of everywhere they go online will help them think twice about where they go and what they see.
2. Recognize the potential loopholes.
Even if you buy software for your computers and laptops, keep in mind other places where teens can easily access porn.
- iPhone® and iPod touch® — The iPhone and iPod touch are fully Internet capable. Learn how to lock down Safari and other apps on these devices. Have your teen use the Covenant Eyes browser instead (which can be monitored and filtered).
- Friend’s house — Your teen is only as safe has his or her friend’s home. You may lock down your devices, but what about your teen’s friends? Know who your teen’s friends are and get to know their parents. Find out how they are monitoring the Internet in their home.
- School — School libraries and computer labs are often places where teens look at porn. Take time to learn how your local school is putting blocks in place.
Ultimately, your best efforts are no match for a teenager who wants to find porn. People who want to look at porn will find a way. This is why the best porn blocker in the world is not a piece of technology. The best porn blocker is a teen willing to guard their own eyes and mind.
How do parents train their teens to do this? Ultimately, teens need to see why porn is not fulfilling their sex drive but is harming it. This means having open discussions with them about pornography.
Sunday, October 20, 2013
A new report from Juniper Research has found that by 2017, a quarter of a billion people will use their mobile or tablet device to access adult content, such as videos, images and live cams, up by more than 30% on current usage. The report highlighted that this is attributable to an emphasis on high-definition, niche-centric product, as well as the flourishing availability of mobile-optimized free content.
According to the report, Mobile Adult Content: Monetization, Technologies & Legislation 2013 – 2018, smartphones and tablets have become key distribution channels for adult service providers, with those at the forefront of the industry ensuring that content is differentiated for and tailored to the increasingly mobile audience.
Saturday, October 19, 2013
Sexting is using mobile technology to send a suggestive, nude or semi-nude text, picture or video of oneself to someone else.
Why do you need to know about this?
Because according to a recent study, about 48% of teens have received a sexually suggestive message and about 39% have sent one.
from Eric Simmons:
Pornography is a problem.
Porn is like a narcotic, it hijacks the brain, it redefines human sexuality, and in the meantime ruins lives, destroys families, and destabilizes ministries. And honestly it’s a problem that makes me tired — tired of the devastation Satan is causing to children, women, families, pastors, churches, and the world with this tragic evil.
Porn became a problem for me when I was only six, and by the grace of God that problem ended when Jesus saved me at age seventeen. But I know it rarely happens so cleanly. It is still a temptation, yes; temptation abounds living in the city I do, and with the heart I have, but grace abounds all the more in Jesus Christ.
Friends, I hate porn. And here’s why.
- I hate porn because it is a perversion of what God created in man and woman.
- I hate porn because it exploits women made in the image of God into an image made for a man’s lust.
- I hate porn because it objectifies women into a consumable product instead of a glorious image-bearing creature of God.
- I hate porn because I love women — in particular my wife and three daughters.
- I hate porn because it takes the soul satisfying experience of sex with a covenantally-committed spouse and turns it into a twisted soul shrinking experience of self-sex.
- I hate porn because it turns sons and daughters of God into slaves of sex.
- I hate porn because it turns potential missionaries into impotent Christians.
- I hate porn because it destroys marriage, many before they even begin.
- I hate porn because it extends adolescence and keeps men boys.
- I hate porn because it lies to men about beauty and leads men to look for a porn star instead of a woman who fears the Lord.
- I hate porn because it robs men and women of the full joy of obedience.
- I hate porn because it fractures trust between a husband and wife.
- I hate porn because it is a diabolical, satanic activity that is subtly leading thousands upon thousands to hell.
- I hate porn because it leads to disqualified pastors and impotent churches. (Pastors, if you are addicted to porn, you are disqualified, and you are killing your church!)
- I hate porn because I suspect it’s the most significant reason we are not planting more churches and sending more missionaries.
- I hate porn because it disqualifies gospel preachers who could fill the empty church buildings in my city and so many others.
- I hate porn because of the disappointment children have to go through when their dad tells them why they lost their job or opportunity to lead in the church.
- I hate porn because it teaches a distorted view of sex to children before it can be explained by loving parents.
- I hate porn because I am tired of sitting in my living room with sobbing, confused, devastated wives and broken, embarrassed, condemned men who got caught.
- I hate porn because it leads to rape, molestation, and perversion that can devastate people for the rest of their lives.
- I hate porn because it turns men inward and suffocates a man’s ambition to make God’s name hallowed.
- I hate porn because it says sin, Satan, and the world are more satisfying than our Triune God and his grace.
- I hate porn because I hate ungodly guilt and condemnation.
- I hate porn for the fear it induces in the hearts of parents everywhere that their child could stumble upon a sight and get addicted.
- I love Jesus because he loves people with porn problems.
- I love Jesus because he is powerful to free porn-enslaved hearts.
- He who knew no porn addiction became porn addiction so the porn addict might become the righteousness of God in him.
- He who had no sin became sin for you so that you may become the righteousness of God (2 Corinthians 5:21).
- In that one brilliant sentence, Paul puts an end to the porn problem.
- Friend, you are no longer in Adam but in Jesus. Jesus became a substitute. It was as if he became the porn addict, by receiving the just penalty due for our perversion, and you became the righteous son or daughter of God with all its benefits.
- Friend, in one act of Love and Justice, in the cross-work of Jesus, through faith in him, you are now clean, holy, accepted, forgiven and free. Let me say it again . . . free!
While 43 percent of parents say they monitor children's smartphone usage openly, 35 percent sometimes do so secretly, a U.S. poll indicates.
The Harris Interactive survey questioned 2,286 people aged 18 and older and 1,217 children and teenagers aged 8 to 18 in late August. It found 43 percent of both adults and children described open tracking of smartphone activity.
More than half, 57 percent, of parents do some monitoring of their children, with some doing so both openly and without letting children know.
One in four parents say they sometimes use their children's smartphones to check on their location. Only one in five children said their parents used phone monitoring for that purpose.
Almost 40 percent of children, 37 percent, said their parents have imposed a smartphone "curfew" on them, and 37 percent said they have a "contract" with their parents on usage. Twenty percent said their parents do not allow them to have password protection and 43 percent said they have to give their parents the password.
Monday, September 9, 2013
Surveys show that before kids turn 18, most of them will have seen pornography online (about 90% of boys and 60% of girls.
The question is not whether our children and teens will be exposed to a sexualized culture; the question is whether parents will prepare them for living in it.
That’s why we created the DVD workshop,UNFILTERED: Equipping Parents for an Ongoing Conversation about Internet Pornography. This half-hour presentation will equip you with the language and information to talk to kids and teens about pornography, seen through the lens of a Christian understanding of sexuality.
Thursday, September 5, 2013
Tuesday, September 3, 2013
Saturday, August 31, 2013
Some of these stats may or may not surprise you....
1. According to a study published in the Journal of Adolescent Research, about half (49%) of young adult women agree that viewing pornography is an acceptable way of expressing one’s sexuality.
2. According to a survey of more than 11,000 college-age women, more than half (52%) of young women today are exposed to sexually explicit material by the age of 14.
3. According to a study published in the CyberPsychology and Behavior, 62% of women have seen pornography by the age of 18.
4. Exposures to porn during childhood are not just brief glimpses. Some teen girls are viewing online pornography for a half-hour or more at a time, and 1 in 7 have done this on multiple occasions.
5. About 1 in 5 women (18%) use the Internet for sexual purposes habitually—every week. In a recent survey of women who are part of the Dirty Girls Ministries online community (an online support forum for women with sexual struggles)…
6. Of the women in the community, 87% say they feel or have felt “out of control” when it comes to the matter of masturbation; 70% say the same about sexual fantasies.
7. Of the women in the community, 45% said they started “habitually and compulsively” watching pornography or engaging in cybersex when they were 13-17 years old.
8. Of the women in the community, 27% say they feel or have feel “out of control” when it comes to sexually chatting online; 11% say the same thing about sexting.
9. Of the women currently 18-29 years old, 61% saw porn for the first time before they were 13 years old; 55% said their first exposure was Internet or computer-based.
10. When asked how well did their parents prepared them to for sexual temptations and how well they taught them about purpose of sex, on a scale of 1 to 7, 55% of the members of this community gave their parents a 1. Another third (32%) gave their parents a 2 or 3.